Monday, September 13, 2010

Heavy Heart

My heart's heavy tonight. I just found out about a couple splitting up because the husband was having an affair. I'm so sad and my heart aches for their children. How do you tell a child Daddy doesn't love Mommy anymore? Although I know God hates divorce, He never intended it...God hates unfaithfulness and he doesn't intent it either. Life is so broken.

Someday Brilla is going to want some answers on why this happens. While growing up, I underwent the fear of my parents getting divorced. Thank God, however, they have stayed together for 30 years, especially when all odds were against them. Fortunately, my husband's parents, when he was younger, promised and assured he and his siblings that they were not getting a divorce and would always be married. A promise which they have kept to this day. Do you know how reassuring that is to a child growing up in a world full of unbroken promises?

My husband and I have made the same promise to our daughter. By God's grace, not our own strength, we'll stick together through this life's ups and downs.

2 comments:

Carrie said...

That is very sad. VERY sad.

I remember that I was afraid my parents would divorce as well because I overheard one fight (that took place after I went to bed - they were careful not to argue in front of us!) But I never told my parents how I had been scared so they couldn't correct it. I think assuring children of the promise that you made - and living out that promise before them - is one of the most loving things you can do for them!

I love your heart on this, Joy. Thanks for sharing these hard thoughts!

Susannah Forshey said...

I, too, have had that devastating news delivered a couple of times this month. It is not unusual for soldiers returning home from deployment to be greeted with divorce papers. 2 couples we know broke apart this time...one was a friend of Violet's, too. This makes it so much harder. :(